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The Work on ‘I am unhealthy’

I am unhealthy.

Is that true?

Can I absolutely know that it’s true that I am unhealthy?

How do I react when I believe the thought that I’m unhealthy?

I feel very stressed out. Life seems like too much. I feel a real sense of hopelessness about my ability to really enjoy and engage with life. I am very severe on myself in terms of my diet — I am a perfectionist for a while, which is very stressful, and thereafter I react by eating a lot of junk food. After that I feel guilty, awful about myself, and completely out of control. I feel angry at myself for making my health worse. I complain and feel scared and ‘force’ Boyfriend to support me. I avoid things, like running, going out too much, getting cold. I feel terrified when I get cold or wet, thinking it’s going to lead to illness. I spend a lot of time terrified of getting sick, and being frustrated and angry and blaming myself when I do get sick. I feel very angry at the Universe/angry at God for putting me in this defective body. In fact, I feel a lot of rage. I have lots of tantrums and feel that life is really too much for me.

Who am I without the thought ‘I am unhealthy’?
I am at peace. I have so much energy. I am happy, strong and capable. I do what I do, I eat what I eat, with a sense of total peace and strength. If I get sick, I enjoy resting, knowing that I am inherently complete and perfect. I never make decisions according to an idea of myself as damaged — I make the decisions that feel right and joyful in the moment. I feel strong, infinitely so, and infinitely capable.

Is there a peaceful reason to believe the thought ‘I am unhealthy’?
I can get the help I need.

I need to believe I am unhealthy to get the help I need.

Is that true?

I need help.

Is that true?

How do I react when I believe the thought ‘I need help’?
I stress out about finding the right person or people to help me. I spend a LOT of money on appointments and medicines. This reinforces my idea of myself as damaged. I feel very small and very powerless, needing external forces. I feel very sad and discouraged when I see someone and the treatment doesn’t seem to help.

Who am I without the thought ‘I need help’?
I smile and look on everything as perfect. I love every sensation in my body and I am grateful for every twinge. I see a health practitioner when I decide to, but I know in my heart that I am perfect, and I don’t need anyone to heal me.

Is there a peaceful reason to believe the thought ‘I need help’?

Turn it around

– I don’t need help.
Three reasons why this statement is as true or truer than the original:
1. I am able to move through my daily life just fine
2. A lot can be achieved by changing my habits, which I don’t need external help to do
3. I never used to see health practitioners this often and I was just fine.

– My thinking needs help.
There is a LOT to be achieved by doing The Work on the thoughts that stand between me and my wellbeing.

Is there a peaceful reason to believe the thought ‘I am unhealthy’?
I can modify my habits in order to live better.

Believing that I am unhealthy allows me to modify my habits.

Is that true?
No. It makes me feel not strong enough to modify my habits.

Is there a peaceful reason to believe the thought ‘I am unhealthy’?
It’ll motivate me to go to the gym.

Is that true?

Is there a peaceful reason to believe the thought ‘I am unhealthy’?

Turn it around.

– I am healthy
Reasons this statement is as true or truer than the original thought:
1. I am up and about.
2. My intellect works really well.
3. I can live on junk food.
4. I can laugh and be happy.
5. I can weed the garden.
6. I can walk for two hours.
7. I can work with weights.
8. I can do yoga.
9. I’m not depressed or anxious.
10. My thyroid is working well.
11. I can progressively relax my muscles.
12. I can have sex and have an orgasm.
13. I can sleep.
14. I can wake up.
15. I can dress myself, feed myself, go to the toilet myself, clean myself.
16. My brain works well — I have no learning issues, no epilepsy, no hallucinations.
17. I get over infections.
18. I can learn new things.
19. My fight or flight response works really well.
20. I can catch objects that are thrown to me.
21. I can run, skip and dance.
22. I can see, hear, taste and smell.
23. I can walk without assistance.
24. I can smile.
25. I can read and write.
26. I can engage with new concepts.
27. I am alive.
28. I can sing, make music and understand rhythm.

– My thinking is unhealthy
Especially about my health! There is so much Work to be done, and I’m so looking forward to doing it.

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The Work on ‘I need to be beautiful’

I need to be beautiful.

Is that true?


How do I react when I believe the thought ‘I need to be beautiful’?

I feel terrible about myself when I look in the mirror. I focus on the parts of me that I think are unsightly.

I agonise over what to wear, and will often take an hour to get dressed, getting thoroughly stressed out trying different combinations. I put myself into debt by buying things I think will make me more beautiful — clothes, beauty products, nailpolish, expensive haircuts, etc. This is extremely stressful and financially draining. I do things that adversely affect my health in order to appear more beautiful and stylish: I wear a handbag, wear make-up, nailpolish, perfume, dye my hair. I compete with everyone in terms of appearance. I feel extremely jealous of people I see on the street who are thinner, or who I believe are more beautiful than I am. I compete with my friends, wanting to be the thinnest and most beautiful of them all. This leads to a LOT of stress, and also to the aforementioned frequent stress over the perfect outfit. I look at everyone in terms of their appearance (usually strangers) and internally ridicule them. I judge strangers according to their weight and level of attractiveness. I feel guilty and I attack myself for doing things I believe will make me fat and therefore not beautiful, mostly eating junk food.

I displace my anger at myself for judging according to appearance onto others and condemn them for doing the very same thing. I experience a profound sense of stress and self-hatred when I see an unflattering photo of myself, or when I think I look fat, or when I forget to pluck my eyebrows. I have ‘fat and ugly’ days when I feel completely depressed and powerless. I feel deeply uncomfortable in social situations on ‘fat and ugly’ days. I even consider cancelling social engagements. I compare myself to people in magazines, ads and other fashion-related images and feel awful about myself.

Who am I without the thought ‘I need to be beautiful’?

When I look at myself in the mirror I see only my love and compassion radiating out. I wear whatever is clean, and it only takes me a few minutes to get dressed. I put on make-up only if I want to. I look on people with love, and only love. I find what they wear and their bodies completely charming, if I notice their appearance at all. I wear whatever to gatherings with friends, and I don’t look at fashion photos because I’m not that interested. I am so full of love and joy, for everyone, and for myself. I know my value, and I know the value of others.

Is there a peaceful reason to believe the thought ‘I need to be beautiful’?


Turn it around.

– I don’t need to be beautiful.

Reasons it could be better to not be beautiful:

1. I don’t have to deal with unwanted attention.
2. I get to save a lot of money.
3. I get to save a lot of time and energy.
4. I won’t work as a model, actress, flight stewardess, or any other occupation that depends on my appearance.
5. People will be more likely to converse with me because they’re interested in me, not because they’re dazzled by my appearance.
6. I can eat whatever I want.

– My thinking needs to be beautiful.
This is what I’m actually after. I want to beautify my thinking, and remove attachment to negative thoughts, so I can be happy! I’ve tried to appear beautiful because I think it will make me happy (it doesn’t); making my thinking beautiful is what will actually make me happy.

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